Well the fallout has been difficult but this was to be expected. My siblings have rushed to Mum and Dads defense, feeling and overwhelming need to defend the abusers due to the trauma bond. None of them stating any facts about what I have said that is not true. One has claimed I have drug induced psychosis and another has claimed drug induced stories. This is to be expected as it was the same thing Mum and Dad said about my elder brother to discredit him. They claimed he was dangerous and no one should go next to him. One brother removed his comment on face book page after he did not like my answer and left a threating voice message on my phone. Then sent a text message in a nicer tone saying the same threats. This is all part of the devaluation stage that Narcissists’ follow, their behaviour is predictable. They are the things Mum and Dad have said about me, behind my back to devalue me.
This link explains the devaluation stage and why they do it.
The 4 Phases of a Narcissistic Relationship – Pathways Family Coaching
This behaviour will continue in an effort to further separate me from my support. They will make up more lies about me and literality tell people not to come around me. Like I said they are not special or unique and follow a pattern. One of their patterns is PROJECTION and to explain this simply, everything they are claiming I am doing is exactly what they are doing to me. When they claim I am attacking them that is exactly what they are doing to me. When they claim I am ruining the peace they deserve that is what they are doing to me. And if they claim I am dangerous as well then they are in fact dangerous to me. They may follow a pattern but the things they do within that pattern are unpredictable and can be dangerous.
I have been in the care of professionals throughout this journey and I have several reports saying I am of low risk of harm to others and have always been. I have been push to my breaking point with abuse and never reacted violently, quite the opposite. I become literally incapacitated for days unable to even care for myself yet alone hurt anyone. I have chosen my way to deal with this and it is to openly tell the truth, as not telling the truth is what has got me into this situation.
I know first hand the overwhelming desire to step in and help Mum and Dad, they were able to get me so worked up over our older brother. Narcissist’s use innocent people to prepetrate their abuse so they don’t get their hands dirty. Consider that everything they have said about me is what they are doing to me. I am not dangerous, I do not have drug induced psychosis just because I am not agreeing with them and suffering PTSD. This is their problem and you do not need to act for them. It is not helpful for anybody if you continue the abuse through phone messages, at this stage none of you have permission to visit my home. This is for my safety. If you come to the realisation of what you are going through and need to talk I will always be here, but now you are part of the problem.
To my brother who left the phone message, you are not this person. You are one of the kindest and most caring people I know and your response is out of character for you. I am of no danger to your parents, they are dangerous to my health. This has been done because of their actions and to protect me from further abuse. I just want to get out of this family and be left alone by Mum and Dad. They are refusing to resolve our business dealings and let go of the control they have exerted over me.