I was unsure how a Narcissist and a Sociopath could be married for so long, so I discussed this with my Councilor. She confirmed that it can work as long as one has control of the other. I won’t lie, the realisation that Dad is being controlled by Mum and probably has no idea what she is, gave me a little laugh. Their actions are straight out of the Narcissist and Sociopath hand book. When they can no longer get what they want from you, they are finished with you. If you threaten to take something they think is theirs or threaten to expose what they have done, they destroy you. They ruin your reputation so no one will believe anything you say about them. They cut you out of every mutual relationship with lies and manipulation so you do not even get the opportunity to relay the truth about who they really are.
This is not the first son they have done this to, it is just Mum and Dads’ nature. My brother who was thrown around by the hair for entertainment was prone to outburst of emotional crying that went into his adult life. Most times when he drank alcohol he would break down crying, next minute laughing and then crying again. This is classic PTSD. No one listened to his cries for help because it did not suit Mum or Dad, they wanted everyone to think they had the perfect family.
That is how it was, everything had to look good from the outside and there was no care for how things really were. They acted one way when at home and completely different when we were out in public. One look from either of them and you knew you were going to get flogged when you got home.
The moment Mum didn’t like what my brother was saying she screamed mental illness. His siblings (including myself) were turned against him when he needed us the most, Mum and Dad had him committed to a mental hospital. Later he was put in jail solely on Mums evidence alone.
Having witnessed mums manipulation and devaluation of anyone who destabilizes or threatens her delusion of grandeur I know exactly what she will say to this. I am mentally disturbed and I am on drugs. The truth is that I was referred to the cannabis clinic by my doctor for pain relief after the life changing neck injury. The TGA has approved cannabis for treatment of Autism and as my unknown condition got worse my use of cannabis increased. Since being diagnosed and treated for autism in August 2021 I have completely stopped the use of cannabis. I do have Autism, it is a neurological learning disorder but I have the ability of extreme focus and understanding, it just comes a huge cost emotionally and physically.
When you take out the superficial charm Mums emails show no concern for me as her son, no concern for my physical or mental conditions, no concern for right or wrong, just whatever she has to do or say to get what she wants. I can only assume that having done this to me my whole life she was so confident she would get away with it again that she did it in writing.
After many emails back and forth (attached), I pointed out that with all of her attempted manipulation, she has inadvertently admitted to me owning all the assets as I had initially claimed. The following morning Mum sent me a doctors certificate saying she is suffering stress and psychological problems. Mum then ended any further communication.
Having the last say is something Sociopaths and Narcissist have in common. Sociopaths are classified by the DSM-5(Diagnostics and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders) as Anti-Social Personality Disorder (ASPD). This does not mean they are not social, it means they are dangerous to society.
This is the real problem in parliament house today, Sociopaths and Narcissists are attracted to this job and the power that comes with it. Compared to their prevalence in society they are disproportionately common in these types of positions. They think they are special and above the laws that normal people have to abide by. They believe they have the right to treat people however they like without consequence. They have little care for anyone but themselves and their achievements.
This was always going to happen the moment I asked for what I had paid for, it’s who they are and they can’t help it. I can’t help my defiance, every time they pushed and said I didn’t own my assets I pushed back showing just how much I really do own.
Throughout these emails there is talk of a fire where Dad fell asleep and left a fire unattended that burnt our extraction plant, his shed and a number of other high value items. He claimed it was a mysterious grass fire, this lead to some $150,000 dollars worth of insurance fraud from both Dad and Mum. I think it is important to read my statement about this first so you understand when it is referred to in the emails. I trusted these people and believed that they were normal and good hearted but the reality is $150,000 dollars is a massive fraud. It is not normal. The EX policeman and EX politician who have done this are massive frauds. Sociopaths are known for this sort of illegal and unnecessarily risky behaviour.
The only ill feelings I have towards either Mum or Dad is them turning my siblings against me when I needed them most. I truly hope that my siblings read up on the trauma bond and realise it is not love. Neither a narcissist nor a sociopath are capable of true love and rely on this trauma bond to keep people in their lives. When you realise that our childhood was not normal and how sick a trauma bond is, it is broken straight away. But realising a trauma bond will take time.
When you research the psychological facts of having a Sociopath and a Narcissist as parents, you will see that the legacy left behind by Mum and Dad are generations of psychological problems. Each generation teaching the next what they think is normal and never knowing any better. My message to my siblings and their families would be that now is your chance to do something about it, start reading. Google, there is heaps of good information by psychiatrists both written and on YouTube. Everyone should know about these people for their own safety and their children. My councilor recommends that children should not be left with these people unattended for one minute.